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Honor In Marriage | Marriage & Family Series 3
Marriage requires more than sentiment—it demands a foundational understanding of honor that transforms how we treat our spouse and view our covenant. This powerful conversation unpacks what biblical honor looks like when applied to everyday marriage dynamics, moving beyond surface-level politeness to deep, sacrificial respect.
Let's open up in prayer. Heavenly Father, we just thank you for the Holy Spirit that's here, that brings illumination through your word. And so, father, we just thank you that our hearts are open to you and your leading and your direction. And, lord, we just know that there's no change without growing and there's no growing without change. And so, father, we are committed to changing tonight, to be a better husband or a better wife, a better parents and Lord, to be who you've called us to be in these last days. And so, lord, we zoom past any distraction and we focus on Jesus, the author and the finisher of our faith. And, lord, it's with the Holy Spirit's help that we are all that you need us to be in this life. In Jesus' name, amen.
Speaker 1:Well, I just wanted to start out by talking about the definition of honor. And 1 Peter 2, 17 says recognize the value of every person. In other words, honor every person, give honor to marriage Hebrews 13, 4. Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. And so the definition of honor is to value, to esteem, to respect, to treat favorably, to have high regard for to demonstrate value, to treat as valuable in high estimation, by words or actions. They should say words and actions, and so by both we give honor, we show honor. And so and the next is similar it's the definition of the honor you know, honoring our marriage covenant. And so sometimes we look at marriage as honoring our spouses. But what we really need to do is, through the fear of the Lord, honor the covenant that we've made before God to our wife or our husband. And so it says the value esteem, make it precious in reputation and be willing to pay the price for marriage. Marriage is honorable in all. It's not to be undervalued, but we need to give its highest rank. Honor needs to be shown to the covenant of marriage, not just your spouse. And other translations of this say to hold in high respect, give the most merit and the highest rank. And so honor your, your marriage covenant first. And you know that's a threefold cord that's not easily broken, and so I just encourage the ladies out there I know that we're going to get into some things here like Ephesians 5.22 is the most quoted Honor your husband. For wives this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Husbands like to throw that out first. But I'm telling you, let's get into what that means and honoring the marriage covenant. But I'm telling you, though, when we honor our husbands, ladies, if you'll do your part to honor your husband, that's what unlocks his door into your life and that's how God designed marriage to be and men to be. When you honor him, it brings out the best in him, right? Would you like to add anything to that before I go on? All right, so I'll just keep on trucking.
Speaker 1:So in Malachi, malachi 2.15, in the message, it says God, not you, made marriage. You know, the world really wants to try to define, you know, change the definition of marriage. They really can't do that, can they? His spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that's what he wants. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. That goes back to talking about honoring the marriage covenant, to guard the spirit of marriage that's within you and don't cheat on your spouse. And so you know we're going to get into Ephesians 5, but I wanted to kind of dwell on this point about even the smallest details that God, his Spirit, inhabits, even the smallest details of marriage, and I just wanted to tell kind of a personal story, a kind of like hot off the presses, something that's God's doing in our marriage and changing the way. After 28 years, you know, in the process of changing the way that we do married life. And so here we are at a stage where our kids are adults and it's oh so wonderful, but two. So here's an example.
Speaker 1:So two weeks ago tonight, my dad started this off right and so, because he was preaching Selena and I took my mom to physical therapy for him so he wouldn't have to do that that day we got to spend some good time with her. But we were on our way back here after that and I just said, what would it look like? I just had this thought come over me, but it came out of my spirit what would it look like if we didn't show up at work tomorrow? What if we just left tomorrow morning first thing and went on a trip? And we started thinking about all the things we'd have to cancel and all the things we'd miss.
Speaker 1:And we started to do it and by the end of Wednesday night we were ready to go, went home, everything was booked. We couldn't find anything. So I went to my plan B and I booked it, but they didn't send me an email, they didn't hit my credit card, so we went to bed not knowing if we had reservations. Woke up the next morning I went to the audiologist appointment. I called that hotel while I was. While I was there, oh yeah, mr grinder got you on the first floor in a you know patio room next to the I had already put stuff in the suitcase.
Speaker 2:By faith, by faith but on wednesday night, when jay was like, oh, I didn't go through, I was like, well, I'm already semi-packed so nothing else was available.
Speaker 1:Anyways, what Bottom line. We stayed somewhere we probably wouldn't have stayed and it was gorgeous and nice and perfect for that kind of a trip. Anyways, the weather wasn't. You wouldn't book a trip like that. If you read the weather, it was like 30-mile-an-hour gusts.
Speaker 1:Here we are sitting on the beach in Corpus with 30-mile-an-hour winds in our face. You know we're eating food, that restaurants. We didn't know about ordering food. Grouper nachos who knew that they would change your life? Grouper nachos, I'm telling you, eating food we wouldn't order, you know.
Speaker 1:And God set that up and so it really taught me that when we're in tune with God's spirit, he knows what you want and he knows what you desire. He knows how to satisfy you better than you do. And so if I can tap into that power as a husband to treat my wife with a trip better than she even you know, greater than she even knows she wanted, like she didn't know who would have picked Corpus with 30 mile an hour winds, but it was perfect. You know we sat out on the on the bay and and watched dolphins go by and all kinds of you know beautiful moments, and that keeps happening. We were coming back from an appointment, uh, the next week, and it was. She's like hey, I got this gift card in my purse to such and such restaurant. We ate outside, and it was gorgeous, and she had the view of the terrace and the fountain and I had the view of her looking in her eyes. That's all I needed was to look into her eyes an extra 30 minutes that day. So, okay, I'll stop. But you think it's all about the food, but it's not. But anyways, just these little moments that the Holy Spirit is using to just blow us away. And so we really I know it's a cliche, but you really can have heaven on earth. Your mansion is going to be like that. You're going to get to heaven and you're going to be blown away in areas that you didn't even know. You like God knows you like them, and he wants to satisfy those. And so, as husbands and wives, there's ways we can serve each other on the daily. That doesn't have to be out of your own flesh. If you know, god knows if I, if it was up to me and my ideas, I would never buy her a gift that she likes. Right, she'd take every gift back. No, I'm just kidding, but like no, seriously, like I mean I'm kidding, but I'm not. Like when you tap into, when you're led by the spirit in every single area and you don't approach it like you're alone. And so I, just again, before we get to Ephesians 5, I think in a relationship.
Speaker 1:You know, one of my weaknesses is I like to vent, I like to complain, I like to go home and just you know. You know this happened and that happened and this person said this and that and this, and she's good at that and she's good at, like, taking my attention and turning me back. But, man, it's so much better when I take the little bit of time that I have on the way home and I listen to worship and I allow the Lord to heal that and I pray about that situation and I get a strategy from heaven and it calms all of my nerves and then I can walk home and truly leave work at work, you know. And so I know that that's an area in my life that I struggle. I like to take it all home and work till you know, whatever. 10, 11, I'm responding to email or whatever, and so all these details, we get kind of lost in the weed sometimes trying to help people. But our marriage is important, our kids are still important, our family is still important, and so don't ever put your job. You know it's really like God, your spouse, your kids, your church, and then your job. And so people get that all mixed up and anytime you get your priorities out of whack, your whole marriage is out of whack. And so really, I'm taking too long really to go through this.
Speaker 1:So Ephesians we all know what Ephesians when it talks about. If you would read the titles in a new King James version Bible, it says um, walk in love, and then it says walk in light, and then it says walk in wisdom. These are the titles. And then it says marriage, christ and the church, and so we skip all the way down to the marriage question. You know marriage, uh, verses, and we read those. Like I was saying earlier, wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. But he didn't read. It's not going to work at all if he didn't read.
Speaker 1:Starting back at verse one, to walk in love, to be imitators let's see where is it. I'm trying to oh, there it is. Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, follow the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself, as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. And so we must, as men and women, we must be imitators of God.
Speaker 1:And so if you want to get to the whole submit thing in verse 22, you got to be an imitator of God. You can't be, you know. You can't have your life submitted to alcohol. Instead, it says be not drunk with wine but be filled with the Holy Spirit. So you're submitted to the Holy Spirit, you're controlled with and you know, you have songs and hymns and spiritual songs coming out of you making melody unto the Lord. But under your wife as well, you, you can take that same spirit that's encouraging you and healing your heart and healing your wounds and healing your past hurts and defeats and and and uh, you know, and you can use that agape love to love on your wife. That's what this means, that's what it's made to, you know. And then walk circumspectly. I didn't put that verse in there, but walk circumspectly. You know that's a really important thing before you get to the end.
Speaker 1:So this concept came out of Kenneth E Hagen's book Marriage, divorce and Remarriage, which you would think would be a book about divorce and remarriage, but the first word is marriage. So he did have a few very key, great chapters in there about marriage, and I kind of liked it because he told some stories from like the 40s after World War II, when women just weren't treated right by men in general. And so we've come a long way, haven't we? And so the love of God is abounding in our lives, and so you know, like I said, if you know, to be filled with and controlled by the Holy Spirit, and so you know. And then verse 21, before we get to 22, and further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Speaker 1:So you know, having a man that's able to submit to one another in reverence, they, you know, he reverences Jesus Christ, he reverences the power of the Holy Spirit, all the things that we're talking about. He reverences church, he reverences, he submits to a pastor, church he reverences, he submits to a pastor. He knows how to be led by the Spirit and to have his family in and getting fed in green pastures, amen. And so for husbands really, for wives really to be submitted to the man, he must be a lover of his wife as Christ, like Christ, love the church. You know how does the church look today. You know it's thank God.
Speaker 1:It's not all about deserve, right, because the church can be kind of pretty messed up, right. No matter what the church has gone through, jesus loves his bride, no matter how many things happen. So we, as husbands, we put a knife in our own desires, we put a knife in our own, we die to our own flesh, to our own way of thinking, and we live under Jesus Christ and it's out of that love, that agape, love again, that same love that's healing us. That's the love that is required to love on your spouse, amen. On your wife, amen. And so with that we can move on to mutual honor and respect.
Speaker 1:Am I doing this one too? How did I do so many in a row? Are you ever going to talk? All right, can we do? Number two first, can I breathe?
Speaker 1:1 Peter 3.7 says Husbands in the same way. Be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker that means physically, you know, the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. Number one you got to realize that that scripture. You and your wife are equal. You have the same. You're both heirs of the gracious gift of life. Everything that God has given, he's given to both of you equally, and so one is not greater than the other. And number two you have to realize that you know, maybe if your prayers aren't being answered, you need to check up on how you're treating your wife. How are you treating your wife? Because that's going to have a direct correlation. Your love walk is going to have a direct correlation in God answering your prayers, amen.
Speaker 1:And so husbands are to honor their wives, recognizing them as equal heirs of God's grace. And then you know, it says Ephesians 5.33. Again, however, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Again, it's a two-way street. So we're loving and she's respecting, she's honoring, but we're also sowing honor and respect back. And so honor is not just about politeness, it's about seeing your spouse, as God sees them, deeply valuable, made in his image and worth serving sacrificially. So you need to be asking your you know yourself, how can you be a be a better servant to your spouse? Every day, we're pleasing God first, and then we're pleasing our spouse second, in that order, and so um make that your priority. Amen.
Speaker 2:Finally, my turn amen, finally my turn. That's so good. Um, yeah, when you see your spouse, as, uh, you know he got, you know we're so unique and and wonderfully made, and so I think, um, a lot of the times we can just get caught up in life and get caught up in the nitty-gritty, and get caught up in just stuff that we, just, you know this world is just so. You know, it's all about me. What can you do to please me? How can you make me happy? It's all about me instead, yeah, selfishness, but really God's love is selfless and it prefers the other person.
Speaker 2:And so honor is really. Honor and respect are just, you know, it's in God's plan, it's in God's word. And so, number two marriage is a sacred covenant. We went over, I put this scripture in there twice, my bad, and you'll probably find typos in this. So Hebrews 13, four in the New Living says Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. And so marriage is a covenant, it's not a contract. And so you know a contract comes with a warranty. You can take it back. You can't take your husband back to mama's house. You may try, right. So it's not a contract, it's a covenant, and so it's different.
Speaker 2:And so a lot of times people treat marriage just so flippant and so, oh, I'm done with that. Like an appliance, it's broken, let me take it back. Right, let me take it back to Lowe's. No, it's so much more. It's a covenant and a threefold. The Bible says a threefold cord isn't easily broken. But a lot of people are just dealing with the twofold. Right, it's just two people, they don't have Jesus mixed up in there and so. But if you braid something, if it's three, it's tight, you can't undo that. Have you ever gotten like three pieces of necklace? Like if you put your jewelry and and it's all and like it's, you can't get that sucker undone. And so that's how God created marriage not to be easily undone, right, and to be thrown away. It's a sacred covenant.
Speaker 2:Romans 12, two in the passion translation says stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you, but be inwardly transformed by the Holy Spirit through a total reformation of how you think. This will empower you to discern God's will as you live a beautiful life, satisfying and perfect in his eyes. And so marriage, it's seen as a sacred covenant, just like. So. Romans 12, too, is talking about hey, quit imitating, quit copying the culture around you, stop it. The word of God said stop copying the culture around you. It's going to drag you down. I mean, if you just look at the shows on TV, the family unit, that is not a family unit. It's crazy. It's a man and a woman, right, and so a lot of times, those things can creep into your marriage and creep into your perception of marriage. Maybe you're not married, but this is how it's supposed to look like. How do you know what it's supposed to look like? Have you read the word of God? Because that's where we get our foundation from, and so it's not the TV shows or what Instagram says or what what's been put on Facebook. It's not the culture around you, but it's. It's what does the word say about marriage and what does that look like. And so, um, we have to make sure that that we don't allow, um, uh, you know the culture around us to change our ideas and our perception of marriage and what it should look like, because God's very clear about that.
Speaker 2:We were reading Dr Guy and Neil Coppe how many of y'all were here on Sunday? It was such a powerful service. Both services, yeah, yeah, both services. And I wrote down here. This is what he wrote in his marriage book Most people enter into marriage with high expectations and low preparation, which can lead to devastation. Marriage can enhance your destiny or destroy your destiny. Marriage can be the greatest source of joy and it can also be the greatest source of frustration. Marriage can be the greatest source of hope, but marriage can also be the greatest source of fear, because the people in the relationship are not sure that they can make it. So don't take marriage lightly, right, and we don't take marriage lightly. Take marriage lightly, right, and we don't take marriage lightly. You know, god, we had going back to the word of God, like we have to make sure.
Speaker 2:I wrote down right here talk about my sewing machine. You know, god's word is our instruction manual. I had this old sewing machine and I got a new one, an upgraded one, and I was trying to figure out how to change a little bobbin on the sewing machine, trying to figure out how to change it like the old machine. But it was new, it was different and it didn't work and I was threading the thread the wrong way. I was like I have to get out the instruction manual. I have to read, yeah, and so that is why the maker, the manual, the maker of that appliance, put the instruction manual on top of the sewing machine so you can read it. Right, it's not just like a cute paper that goes with the appliance, that, hey, you know you can read. No, but it's there for a purpose.
Speaker 2:And so God's given us his word right. So marriage, so we put this right before marriage. So God's word in his word talks about marriage and how to honor marriage. And a lot of times we're just trying to figure it out on our own and uh and so, no, we have to make sure to read the word of God. That is the instruction manual.
Speaker 2:If you never read the word of God, you will not know your, your marriage will be. Read the word of God, you will not know. Your marriage will be kaput. How can it survive without the maker? God made us, he made the spirit of marriage, he himself, right, it's a sacred thing. And so here you have this marriage, you covenant. Like what is that? What does that mean? I have to try to figure it out on our own. No, we, I have to try to figure it out on our own. No, we don't have to try to figure it out on our own. God gave us the instruction manual, right.
Speaker 2:And so I mean, jay and I got married young. There were a lot of things we didn't know. I mean, no wonder if I had to give advice to somebody like I love that we got married young, we didn't do everything perfect, we didn't have community, we didn't have those people that you know, we didn't have, um, godly, married couples around us that we could, you know oh, that's how you do are pouring into us. Now, we do you know, but, um, I would, I'm I strongly, uh, you know, if you, if you have marriage issues, go to a pastor, go to a good marriage counselor. I am for that right, instead of trying to figure it out on your own. There are people that God has placed in your life and if you don't have people, pray for those people. There are wonderful marriage counselors and pastors that can pour into your life, because a lot of times we do have questions and there are things that come up and like, how do I do that? What do you know? There's just stuff, and so, anyway, so marriage is a sacred covenant.
Speaker 2:Number three don't compete complete and talks about so unity. You know, pastor has this love plus unity equals miracles. And so in marriage, a lot of times you know you may not see it, but it can also trickle in where you're competing against each other instead of completing and working as a team. You know, like I did it better. I, you know, I'm home with the kids and they love me, and then daddy comes home and he just wraps there, they just love him, but I'm here working with the kids and I have them all day. Like it can be a competition thing where instead of you're completing one another and so did you want to say something You're fighting for each other, not fighting with each other, and so that's what you have to remember, you know for sure.
Speaker 2:Competition is, you know, contests or rivalry between two or more entities. Animals are individuals. For territory, a niche, scarce resources for prestige, recognition for awards, group status, right. So competition says I can do it better and I'll show you. Right, I got this, I can do it better, let me show you. And so again, competition in marriage comes in many forms and, uh, money, money is the big one. You know I, you know I. I got this job, I got this prestige job and I make this much money. And how about you? And I got a promotion. And when's your promotion? You know things like that.
Speaker 2:Words cut, words hurt. And so you have to make sure that we're edifying each other, that we're making sure we're working as a team, not completing each other, not in competition and making sure our words are sweet and kind. Right, deuteronomy 3230,. How could one person chase a thousand of them and two people put 10,000 to flight? So the remedy for competition is completion, and so, rather than competing, we complete, we're whole, we work as a team. 1 Corinthians 1.10,. I'll go through this quickly. I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord, jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say, that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought. And so again, god wants us to be on the same team. God doesn't want us to struggle alone. God doesn't want me to have my certain thoughts and him to have his certain ways and thoughts of doing that. We, we work together.
Speaker 1:Love plus unity equals miracles, and our pastor says that all the time. Yeah, but that works in our marriage as well, not just here at church. And yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I don't know, ok, so I wrote down. So like five quick, and this goes into next week when we're talking about communication. Some of these are communication, but I don't know if we'll have time to go through all of them, but I'll just hit a couple of them. This is how honoring each other in marriage looks like in real life, day-to-day stuff. Right, I put that day-to-day stuff because a lot of time we would share these scriptures and stuff. I was like, how do I apply that day-to-day stuff? What does that look like in the real, you know, in the when we're arguing and things. So, number one listening with respect, respect and love go hand in hand in marriage. It's about the little things, the words, the tone, the presence, the consistency. Be present. Give your spouse your full attention.
Speaker 1:I'm working on the tone.
Speaker 2:Yes, it's okay, my tone's not the best sometimes. So what weakens emotional connection? Being distracted on the phone? You know, sometimes I just want to throw the phone in the pool or something Like get off your phone, listen to me, right, like this is real life. That is not right. The phone and the iPad that is not Right here. Be in the moment. That is a distraction from the enemy. It's a great tool, but it has divided homes like no other.
Speaker 1:Just really Time sapper and waster.
Speaker 2:Yes, so being distracted, only engaging surface level conversation, not showing interest in their feelings, and then how to strengthen and again, these all can be their own really big, drawn-out message, but I'm just hitting them how to strengthen emotional connection, make eye contact, be fully present, set aside 10 to 15 minutes without distractions, and then show you're really interested, responding, nodding, yes, you know, like if Jay's talking about ham radios or like something else, I'm like, yes, I get you.
Speaker 2:I'm on that wavelength sort of Number two, speaking kindly, even when upset, proverbs 18.21 in the message words kill, words give life. They're either poison or fruit, you choose. And so we have to make sure that, even if you're sarcastic and like try to be funny, like okay, but it hurts, and not that, jay's, you know sarcastic, but I'm just saying like, a lot of time I think we compensate, you know. Oh well, it's funny, it's a joke, it's sarcastic, yeah, but it was words, you can be funny at the end of the day, and then those words still hurt, right, and so you need to make sure that they're sweet, that they're kind.
Speaker 1:So dishonor real quick yeah, and not even realize it, and put one another down, especially in public or in front of other people, and you do that long enough and you're not going to have anything left. Yeah, I'm not going to have a relationship left to build, for sure yeah, yeah, just showing dishonor.
Speaker 2:I can do this better. Why did you do it that way? Or what? I was just nitpicking. No nitpicking, just love life, enjoy life. He may load the dishwasher differently than I. Load the dishwasher most efficient way, of course. Yes, in the most efficient way.
Speaker 1:Actually, he does load the dishwasher Most efficient way of course, yes, in the most efficient way.
Speaker 2:Actually, he does load the dishwasher better than I do. That's all right. I'm usually in a hurry and just load it. However, and Jay comes later and like well, you know, and I'll come back. I'm like these are all loaded on so nicely. I'm like, oh, jay was here, he read, you know, did them, but that's okay you know they don't, but that's okay. That's all right. You started over, that's good.
Speaker 1:Thank you for helping me. Thank you for helping me serve each other with love. Number three, galatians 5, 13, says for you have been called to live in freedom, but don't use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. So think about how to serve each other. What is one more thing I can do today to lighten her load? How can I be a better servant to my wife? You know, ask yourself those questions.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's good. That's, I mean, simple. The Word of God is simple. We like to complicate things, but we're just serving one another. How can I lighten your load? How can I make your life easier? Right, um. And so, number four stay faithful in heart and action. Uh, you know, so many times you know you look to be faithful in action, but your heart is wrong. And so we have to make sure. Am I guarding you know Proverbs three, three let love and faithfulness never leave you, never leave you. And so you have to make sure that. Am I guarding my heart and protecting you? Know the closeness, you know our marriage, our covenant. Am I guarding that? And then, number five assume the best. Oh, he didn't mean to say it that way. Oh, he's had a long day, he, okay. Yeah, he didn't really, you know.
Speaker 1:Give each other the benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 2:Yeah, first Corinthians, with everybody. Give everybody the benefit of the doubt. You know, oh, how the world would be better. 1 Corinthians 13, 7,. Love always protects, always trust. And so do I assume the best out of my spouse or jump to conclusions, and so that's just a couple of highlights. You know God has so much more to say about honor and honor in marriage and respecting one another and treating each other with agape love. Because, you know, the enemy is out to get the family unit. Marriage and the family unit are his number one target. So if he can destroy and get into the family unit, he's got you. You know, like you're, it's not a threefold cord and so we don't want it to be easily broken. We, our heart is to give you the word of God, our heart is to make sure that you are, uh, headed in the right direction. You know, because God's faithful.
Speaker 2:God can take any mess. Maybe you're dealing with something in your marriage Like God can take any mess. And maybe there there's stuff, there's baggage, you got baggage, she got baggage. Or you come from a dysfunctional family, or you come from a divorce and then married again. Hey, listen, god can take anything and make it brand new. He can take any mess.
Speaker 2:You may think like, oh my gosh, I am in such a mess that doesn't matter. God doesn't see you as a mess, right? He's the God of second, third, fourth, fifth chances. He loves you and wants the best for your marriage and your family. And because he knows that, hey, we're not only fighting for our marriage, but we're fighting for future generations, right? Yeah, so we're fighting for future generations, not for, because we have to make sure that that we stand strong, that we're united, that we honor each other, that we love each other, that love is shown in the home. So that way it's not only for us, but for future generations, for our next, for our kids and the grandkids and so on. So I think that's it. We're four minutes behind, are we good? Okay, we did so good. That was great. Yeah, that was like.